- Strong people make decisions quickly and easily.
- Weak people cry.
- Strong people don’t get sick.
- Weak people will do what you want.
- Strong people don’t ask for help.
- Weak people don’t try hard enough.
- Strong people feel strong.
- Weak people are worthless.
- Strong people don’t need anything.
- Weak people have no self control.
The real lie is carelessly labeling a person, in their entirety, as strong or weak. We all have strengths and weaknesses so complicated and situationally variant as to make it nearly impossible to make any generalizations at all.
I do think there is a kind of fundamental strength a person can have that’s better described as resilience, but can weakness apply to a person holistically? Could calling myself weak ever be anything but negative self-talk?
One does not deserve to be labeled weak if one’s body or brain chemistry are unwell. But what if you repeatedly give in to emotional blind spots or compulsive desires? What if you make cowardly choices? When does it cross the line? When do weak choices define you enough that you become toxic to others? Why is it sometimes hard to tell the difference between weak choices and being yourself?
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